Thoughts Become Things, 7 Ways to Master Your Own Negative Thoughts!

In the world that focus only on the things that go wrong, it can get pretty tiring to find a positive state of mind. Think about it- from the magazine covers you read, to the news channel, the office gossip, the family drama and the friendly chat of how life is tough. Seldom do you meet people who are a complete surge of positivity. Adds to that, the high stress levels you deal with every single day and you have a formula custom made for negativity!

So, if you are stuck in a rut where you find yourself talking only about what is wrong in your life, always whining, it’s high time you take some time off to read these life hacks below.

  • Accept the Negativity:

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To be in denial of the negative things in your life, is like avoiding a problem you want to solve. Tricky, right? Think of it as finding the problem so that you can proceed to fix it.

  • Break the trend:

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Try to reflect on how you look at your life to change it. Observe if you respond to change by panic, fear or anxiety and try to respond in a more positive way, the trick is to respond not to react. Use the 10-second rule to take well thought-out response to make the most of your time while gliding through your day.

  • Always find the silver lining:

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The best trait of positive people is the ability to always see the positive gleam of light in the middle of their darkest days. And as any ability, this trait can be grown to be a part of our personality.

  • Get it down on paper:

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If you don’t have anyone to talk to, try to get your negative thoughts onto a blank paper. Drawing images of how you feel helps too. This will give your thoughts a tangible form that you can touch and give you something real to look at. In the end, burn the negative thoughts down or shred the paper to make it a thing of the past, the rule is simple, accept your past but don’t live there.

 

  • Meditate:

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Meditation has always been one of the most productive things to do no matter what your age is. The idea of finding the answers to all your questions buried deep inside, the job is to explore your beliefs, trust your intuition and you would be able to find all the answers within your quietest moments. Soon you will realize that your happiness doesn’t depend on the outer circumstances.

  • Smile:

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Science has proved that emotions and expressions are more closely related than what we believe. We express what we feel and hence you can turn the formula around and start feeling what you express, tricky, right? When surrounded by negativity, try to smile more and soon your spirit will only soar!

  • Flood your Calendar with activities you enjoy:

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You can only get negativity if you have the time to sink into negative thoughts. Life Hack? Flood your free time with activities you love. Take up a new dancing class, join the gym, swim, sing, play a sport, write or paint.

With these simple hacks, you are sure to break your conditioning to focus only on the negative side of the world and even change the lives of the people around you. Result, a happy version of you who is strong, self-affirmed, confident and secure!!

 

                                                                                                                  -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs

 

15 Traits of Irresistible People

In a world where looking good is no more a genetic trait (blame it on the makeup or the dressing hacks) and where skills can be developed over the internet, there is a secret that boils down to who we are within! Ever wondered why a particular person around you, always radiate with such a positive energy/vibes that you feel enamored with this charming personality, with whom you can be as real and open as possible. They’re not only the people you turn to for a piece of advice, help or support but also, they’re the one who brings out the best in you!

And often you are left wondering, what do they have that you don’t, isn’t?? Well, the answer is seemingly simple, their sense of self-worth comes from within. They don’t constantly search for social validation, because they know doing or saying things just to impress people doesn’t go a long way and prevent a real connection from forming!

What is it that these people have that you need to develop? Read on to know how to become a person, who, multiplies positive energy in the people around them!!

  1. Draw the Line: When we meet someone, we want to know all about them from the schools they have been to, to their past and their demons. The irresistible people keep the focus on the positives and leave out the negative traits of the people around them. They know how to maintain one’s private space and are conscious about their private space too.
  1. Don’t try too hard to get others to like you: Well the most important trait of irresistible people: they don’t dominate the conversation with stories about how smart and successful they are! No one likes people who just can’t stop bragging about themselves, simple, right?

 

  1. Art of Real and Deep Conversation often makes People come Alive: Well, you can never form an emotional connection during a conversation, if you stick to small talk only. The fact is, no one likes robotic or mechanical connection, quite simple, right? So, rule of thumb is, ditch the small talk, create connection and find depth even in shortest, and everyday conversations!
  1. Make others laugh and learn to steal a laugh too: No other trick is as old as laughing out loud and making the people around you laugh too. Keep the jokes clean and if you are in a bad mood or want to lash back, add the message subtly to it! Everybody loves to be around people who can guarantee a stress-free time.
  1. Treat People the Way You want to be Treated: Even though the rule to respect everybody is a no brainer, some people just don’t understand it. It is important to treat others as you want them to treat you. Irresistible people are consistently polite and respectful, be it, interacting with their potential business partner or domestic help or a server taking their food order, they are great at reading other people, and they adjust their style and behavior to make others feel comfortable!
  1. Be a Person of Integrity: People with high integrity do what is right, not what is easy. They walk their talk, plain and simple, with no drama involved! Integrity is not something you show to others, it’s how you behave behind their back! On the contrary, people these days focus more time and energy faking perfection, and often become good lawyers of their own mistakes, but very good judges for the mistakes of others, so, how to get there?? Well, decide which side of the scale you want to be at, simple!
  1. Focus on People Not Things: Well, some people have tendencies to glorify their underachievement. And no one likes to be around the people who spend much time thinking and talking about themselves only, highly self-obsessed, isn’t it? On the contrary, irresistible people don’t obsess over how well they are accepted by others. Instead they focus more on people they are with, it’s what make them seem so effortless. Well, to make this work for you, try putting aside your smart phone and focus on the people you’re with. We all love people who possess a genuine interest in the people around them, isn’t it?
  1. Never Overdo: While there are many people who have all the above traits, there are those who always overdo it- be it chats, the need to gossip, habit to show off, dress up, even cracking jokes or highlighting their achievements or often times under achievements. Think about it, how impressed are you by people who constantly want to say something mean or witty or someone who wants to overdo things to grab attention, boast of, or belittling others in the need to show themselves better? Try to strike a balance – from your speech to your behavior to your work life and even your social life, striking a balance is the key!
  1. Be comfortable in your skin: Some people have doubts about their looks and about their skills. The truth is, at times people try too hard to be something that people think is ‘irresistible’. So, as much as the people around you admire, people who drive the expensive car, use the latest gadgets or dress up just appropriate, you really have to leave out the idea of impressing someone and be comfortable with who you are. “Be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else!”
  1. Dress to look your best but don’t over-do it: In a world where style and dressing sense can truly rule, take a walk around your favorite mall to discover what suits your personality and what complements your natural self. Take some time to set your hair, clean up those dusty shoes and carry a bag that has a structure. Do know that even if you pile up on fashion magazines, they can only be used to highlight your own traits, so, you know the trick now!
  1. Authenticity and High Moral Fiber goes a Long way: The most important trait of irresistible people: they are real and authentic. And, as a law of nature, people gravitate towards the people who are real and genuine because you know you can trust them, true, hmm…? So, there is a golden rule- ‘Respect Everyone’. Stand up for the one who is right, make someone’s life easy by helping them or giving them an ear when someone wants to talk, simple as that!
  1. Make smiling your ‘Go to’ Trait: If you are the kind who gets annoyed on every small detail of your day, try to replace that frown, which so easily comes to our face, with an intentional smile. If this is too much to ask, try to start and end any meeting with a flash of those pearly whites and you have just cracked one of the biggest life hacks in the world!
  1. Accept Opinions like a Pro: The world revolves around what everyone thinks. Think about it- twitter rules the social media scene. While everyone is too busy giving an opinion of someone’s new bag, fashion sense, work life or even their display picture on Facebook! An extension of that is people having opinions about you too. Think of it as you wearing green glasses and someone else wearing red ones. The world for you will be green while the world for the other person will be red. Hence, learn to hear opinions and understanding that they are not facts. Irresistible people know the difference between two pretty well. Also, they recognize that many people who are just as intelligent as they are see things differently, that’s absolutely okay!
  1. Never Shy Away from Being Yourself: Authenticity is something you cannot replace-especially if you want to be a real and confident person and swoon people with you charm. Embrace your faults and be sure about your likes and dislikes and stay honest about them. Don’t like Game of Thrones? Time to come clean! Develop your positives, irresistible people have a common knowledge of what they are good at and they always keep it in the forefront. If you are a good singer, a good conversationalist or a great listener, a poet or writer, a workaholic or simply someone who loves to start their day with meditation or a long jog, keep developing that skill and get others involved in that part of your life. Soon it will become synonymous to your personality.
  1. Live the Life to the Fullest: Irresistible people enjoy, what they have, where they are and who they are, they’re self-assured, confident and don’t constantly look for validations. They are positive and passionate about things they do. They believe in living a life that feels good on the inside, not a life that just looks good on the outside. So, keep calm, live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive!!

Well anyone can learn these appealing traits and qualities as their own. All you need is, to allow yourself some time to embrace these tips and soon you will be in a room to become the heart and soul of the place. Well, it’s simple, focus more on people around you than yourselves, and make other people feel liked, respected, understood, and gotten. After all, we are all puzzles trying to figure out who we truly are. Just remember one thing: the more you focus on others genuinely, the more irresistible you’ll be!

Don’t forget to share these life hacks with someone else and make someone feel good about themselves too!

                   -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs

16 Life lessons from the movie “Dear Zindagi”

“Dear Zindagi” surprised the audience with the remarkably noteworthy storyline but what truly steals the show, is the way a charming and ambitious but messy and completely screwed up 20-something girl, Koko- finds her way through the mess of an adult life by meeting Jug (her Psychologist). A movie so nicely carved out at the nuances of life indeed gave us some serious notes.

For all the stress, anxiety and sheer dead ends that our generation has to come face to face with, the film is a breath of fresh air that gave some simple yet big life goals to anyone who wants to cope with the cons in life and come out of it like a true winner. Almost every 20-something would have been able to relate with this movie with their moment of “Ouch, it’s me!” during the movie. To break it down to you, read on to find 16 powerful life lessons that made the movie a keeper!

  1. Believe in second chances:

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  1. Make Self-respect your Second skin:

dg2Self-respect, especially for a woman is considered only if it can conveniently serve someone else. Make sure your self-respect becomes your second nature- something that people cannot detach you with and soon you will only be approached by people who multiply your energy. Ego is negative but self-respect is positive and necessary, don’t let someone get comfortable with disrespecting you!

  1. On the mind, on your face:

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  1. Everyone has to find themselves:

 dg4In the deleted scenes (yes, we believe in seeing what is left out too!), Jug takes Koko to a fort and reveals the story of Donna Maria who came to Goa from Brazil and stayed here for 20 years. She lived 14 of those years as a man to survive and lived deceptively as Balthazar (a soldier). After fighting in many battles, Balthazar was injured and her doctor found out her secret. Scared to death, she came out to tell her story that was accepted with admiration and respect. Lesson u ask?? You need to find yourself again even if you are lost in a world of imagination that you have created.

  1. “Find your Chair”:

 dg5The most famous thought form the movie holds on to the idea of trying out different things and even meeting many people before you settle down with your life partner. If you cannot buy a chair without choosing, how can you make such a hasty decision with your life partner?

  1. Stay away from Judgments:

 dg6The whole society dwells on judgments. And that is exactly what you should repel. Avoid judging other people and their life choice and stand up for yourself when people are judging you. Be yourself, be proud of your choices and don’t let other bog you down with their judgement.

  1. Accept your past for a better future:

 dg7The hardest thing we can relate to is why we have certain preconceived fears and notions in our life. The answer is always in the past. Reflect back into your life and try to find why you are unhappy with your current life. Accept your past but don’t live there!

  1. If you can have an easy way, have it!

dg8In times when life is real hard to get by, if you have something that makes your life easy, do it. Just remember that your self-respect, values and morals should not be compromised and if it helps, take help!

  1. Hard decisions don’t guarantee success:

 dg9The most successful people often talk about their struggling years and we as the new generation have accepted struggling as a part of success. Stitch this thought and if having a day job means you can moonlight as an artist without worrying about paying bills, do it!

  1. Talk to your family:

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  1. Seek professional help for mental health and emotional well-being:

 dg11.pngThe taboo of mental health means by the time you do accept that you need professional help, there will be someone who will ridicule the idea of you visiting a Psychologist or Counsellor. Do know that the professional can at least give you an added perspective and really help to solve your problems. Thanks indeed to Gauri Shinde for bringing this most avoided topic to mainstream conversation through her cinema. Talking about grief, depression, emotional challenges and being sad over the dinner table is completely normal.

  1. Be Kind to yourself:

 dg12.jpgThe most understated fact in this growing world of rat race is the need to criticize oneself for, be it looks, career choices or relationships in the need to be better. Take some time off and truly cherish your current yet true self. Accept that you have flaws and that they make you unique. Well, making mistakes is anytime better than faking perfection!

  1. The More, the merrier? Probably not!

dg13The most inconvenient task in the world is to make living, have a job, take some time out for yourself and entertain a huge number of colleagues and acquittance. So, the solution is to restrict the number of people you spend quality time with – you closest buddies and your family is all you will ever need. “Quality of friends” is more important than “Quantity of friends”. A real friend is one who walks in, when the rest of the world walks out, who wouldn’t change whether your situation was 10 times better or worse. They are your real wealth, never lose them!

  1. Relish in the smaller things in life:

 dg14In the rate race of having a better lifestyle, we are stuck in a haze with the world rushing by. Amidst the late-night meetings, job deadline, relationship goals and fitness classes, take some time off to admire the simple things in life, like a cup of coffee on a rainy day, reading your favorite book, a nap with you kid, cuddling with your partner, and mindless walk in the evening with some good music or just chit-chatting with your spouse over a cup of tea (my personal fav! 🙂 ).

‘Enjoy the little things in life because one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.’

  1. Know that nothing is a 100% perfect:

 dg15The most dreadful disappointments happen when you are left stuck with the idea that perfection exists. From the ground, you walk onto the paintings of the biggest artists, to the most beautiful face you will ever see, know that perfection is the opposite of uniqueness. And as the idea of perfection changes, so does the idea of happiness. 

  1. Leave the idea of being ‘Normal’ or to “Fit in”:

 dg16The term ‘Normal’ is probably one of the most overrated terms ever used. Some people think having a 9 to 5 job is normal or being married by 25 is normal and any combination above and beyond that is considered either a taboo or a disappointment. Let go of the notion of being Normal and Fitting-in and you will see beauty in your craziness and uniqueness. Don’t try to fit in when you were born to stand out!

 

The stunning movie eaves nothing to the imagination and is simply a letter to life from life. We hope these pointers help you to cope with your inner and outer demons. After all, you are your biggest strength and your weakness. As long as you are being true to yourself, you will always find inner peace and priceless happiness! 🙂

 

  -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs

Social Media Blues: Research Shows How Heavy FB Use Diminishes Your Well-Being and Could Lead to Isolation!

“The trouble with the rat race is that even if you win, you’re still a rat.– Lily Tomlin

With everything about our lives being a post on Social Media, the need for likes, loves, validation and emoticons has changed the game of socializing. From a lunch photo shared on Instagram to the latest dress modelled for Facebook and the constant check-ins that we so proudly follow, the idea of ‘socializing’ is no more restricted to meeting friends on a weekend or a relaxing week-long journey to Maldives with family and spending some quality time. How then, is this not a constant need to impress- to receive validation for every move in our lives, living to impress not to express, really worth it?

Well, the social media giant ‘Facebook’ gets the prize for notifying people of every little step we take. From the latest live video feature to the constant check-ins, Facebook has become a truth-checker for birthdays, marriages and even jobs! If you are one of the few who still thinks that Facebook is one of the ‘safer’ options, read on to know these astounding facts about the impact of heavy Social Media use on one’s well-being.

  1. More than 2 hours per day can cause Isolation:

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Amidst all the long list of friends on Facebook, we forget that the simple greetings given with a handshake or a hug, is something that we all are hard-wired to and no matter what your age is, keeping in contact with people only over the computer will only cause isolation.

  1. Opinions or ‘keeping in touch’?

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The truth is Social Media works on letting your opinion known. Compare this to a live situation where you are commented on what you wear all day long. Tiring, isn’t it? That’s the game of social media- we don’t realize how much we are engrossed in getting validation for things that won’t even matter in the long run. Would it?

  1. Reel Life Vs Real Life:

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The use of social media revolves around the idea of social validation and comparison. Comparison is a human drive, we all do it in some or other way but social media perpetuates this issue many folds. And as a result, Facebook posts often leaves a strong negative impact on our well-being, when we constantly compare our behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlights reel-life, our hustles to their highlights. Bottom line is simple, don’t lose the sight of who we are, what we do have, and all the things that we can be grateful for.

Because the ultimate trust is:

“Your behind-the-scenes are more honest and beautiful than anything on the highlight reel.”

  1. An addition that distracts from quality time:

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Ever been to a family function or a friends’ party or reunion to see everybody bent over their phones (trust me, it sucks big time)? The need to be connected to 1500 people instead of 5 in real life might be tempting for most of us, for sure! But what we forget is how it isolates us from the 5 people who really care about us and have taken time out just to catch up with us. What a real-life social network can do, is something that no chat on a messenger can. Nothing beats an in-person social relationship, take my words for it!

  1. Ubiquity of Social Media and Epidemic Loneliness:

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Despite the ubiquity of social media, we are facing epidemic of loneliness and social isolation. Perhaps one of the most powerful tools for improving our emotional and social well-being is real life social connections – the presence of genuine, strong and meaningful relationships where one feels understood and supported not constantly being compared or judged.

Well, even the online networking companies have realized the benefits and opportunities for strong-offline, an in-person social relationship. And as a result, Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg published a letter in February 2017 describing his vision for Facebook as a platform that builds real-life support systems. Tinder has recently developed new products within its app to encourage users to meet in person. Hmmm… Still, didn’t get my point??

The bottom line, you ask, right? All I would say, don’t become a victim of mindless persuasions of social media and follow these quick fix. Have a quick check on Facebook /Instagram /Twitter and then run or work out or meditate (it could be anything you love to do)- an hour or so without any brain space for it for the remainder of the day and you are sure to be surrounded by people who care about you. Plan a lunch or dinner where you are interacting over games, movies or just enjoying plain chit-chat or a deep conversation, with no social media distractions !

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3 Parenting Mistakes You Should  Make and Why?

As a new parent, the amount of parenting advice I received from family, friends and strangers was enough to overpower the amount of soiled nappies I changed over the course of two kids.

The first time I became a parent, things were different. I was a textbook parent, trying to do everything by rule, following what the ‘experts’ said. The second time I became a parent, I made sure I would do all those mistakes I didn’t do earlier, and make sure that my kids, as well as I, learn from it the right way.

Here are some parenting mistakes I am making, and why!

  1. Let Them Get Dirty – You probably already puckered your nose at this, but the fact is that letting your kids play in the dirt is actually good for them. The different bacteria, orgasms and virus that are found in dirt can help to improve your child’s overall immune system. Spending some time in dirt on a regular basis can help prevent health issues such as asthma, autoimmune disorders and other allergies.

My take – My kids play in the park on a daily basis, and also help me tend plants and get their hands soiled.

  1. Encourage Them To Get Bored – A big parenting mistake that most of us do these days is to provide our kids with too much stimuli. As parents, we offer them things that keep them occupied for every single moment of their waking hours. From screen-based games to gadgets, books, board games, phones, constructed play, hobby classes and more, kids today have some of the tightest schedules that match, if not exceed, that of an adult. But do you know that letting your kids get bored can actually help to develop their overall brain power, encourage creativity and imagination capacities, and extensively boost their cognitive skills?

My take – My children have a free zone each day where they make up their own stories and games and play accordingly. No gadgets or books are allowed and the rule is to have no rules but create new ones.

  1. Have Healthy Arguments In Front Of Kids – How many times have you wanted to argue but stopped in front of your kids? It is important to have some reality in your relationship in the way you portray it to your kids. Having an argument with your partner in front of the kids is not always bad, as it can show them that a relationship is made up of the happy moments, as well as those when you disagree and have a small fight, but still end up being together.

My take – While I make sure we do not lose our temper in front of the kids, I have kept the relationship equation very real. So while there are happy and friendly moments, our kids know that parents can sometimes disagree and feel upset, and it is okay. ‘Sorry’ and ‘it is alright’ are also simple words and phrases that come handy during such times, and can always mend a relationship.

Parenting is a journey that is constantly evolving, and I, as a parent, have decided it is best to embrace this experience with some nuggets of wisdom and some doses of trial and errors !

 

                                                                                               Guest Blogger

                                                                                -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs

9 Important Career Tips for a 20-Somethings !

20s is the age when a person really starts thinking of a career and many are often confused with the same, the current market trends, their passion/interest, future work life, so on and so forth. So here we have some important tips for you to help you get through this confusion and choose a better future according to your passion. Check it out.

1.Always stay Positive

 

It’s simple, if you are going to take negative things too seriously it becomes a barrier in your success path, staying positive never goes out of fashion. Motivation comes from within, it not only helps you move forward but also solve the difficulties on the way.

2.Be Confident of your Capabilities

As they say, if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will. Self-Confidence leads you to attempt things, which in any ways gives you a learning experience, if nothing. It also helps you to win over others confidence on you which makes a stronger bond and helps you in the long term.

3.Time passes by, should you?

Time has to change may it good or bad, it changes for all. Be grateful for your good and be smart to grasp things from your bad times, but always keep in mind both comes for all so build your foundation in a way that does not melt in good nor vanishes in bad.

4.Build for yourself while working for others

Always remember when you’re working as an employ no matter how big a company is but still, the fact remains, you’re working for them. Hence it’s very essential to take some time off according to your convenience, find out your passion and work towards it.

5.It’s not too early to build your foundation

Many in today’s world think of starting your real career at 30-35 as the 20 somethings job does not matter. But it’s not a wrong thing to do if you start preparing yourself in the 20’s, do things that will help you hone your skills and also help you grow as a person in the future. As they say, “it’s never too late to be what you might have been!”

6.Be polite and show gratitude

Yes, you heard it right, politeness and gratitude towards your seniors, other person will earn you much more to help you on your destined path towards your aim. Seniors would be rude and might give more workloads too but your response towards them can change their behavior and also you can learn things from them.

7.Don’t wait too much to spoil your career

If you sense and feel you are on a wrong path or in a wrong field better change it before it’s too late, but before that have a reason for it and take advice from a trustworthy senior or your mentor or career counselor.

8.You will not lack behind if you have prepared beforehand

You won’t be falling back if you have prepared yourself today for your future. Always save money it never goes waste, as it’s mentioned time isn’t the same always, this will help you to maintain your level.

9.Surround yourself with people who motivate and encourage you

Yes, it’s true, getting a right advice at the right time makes all the difference. Surround yourself by right people. It will not only help you increase your confidence and motivation level but also build life long relationship. “Be with the people who help your being” !

 

                                                                                                 -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs

 

10 Ways To Practice Mindfulness In Social Media Age

At the turn of the 21th century, people thought internet would do enough to get us by. How wrong were they? Today, Facebook, twitter, Instagram and YouTube is our privileged power and our weakness.

So as much as the phenomena of ‘Digital Detox’ sounds good for 10 days, what we truly need is balance. Still figuring out how to keep your mind sane in a hazy cloud of comments, likes and shares? Here’s a quick fix for social media addiction!

  1. An hour a day: Keep an hour every day that makes you lock out your devices and spend some time playing the guitar in a quiet room, taking a refreshing run or simply reading a book. Your eyes will thank you for a change of sight and your mind will calm down right away.
  1. Multitask like a Pro: What every productive person will tell you is that they are multi-tasking. But what they forget to tell you is you can only do one thing at any given time. So as much as you try to eat with one hand while you type away with the other, you are only doing 2 things at a rate of 50%. Not much productive, is it?
  1. Nestle in the present: How many of us truly take time to see who we are today? Breathe in and breathe out for at least 10 minutes every day and you have a traded secret of mindfulness! Still want to reach out for your phone? Try downloading a breathing app!
  1. Forget the formula: Even though we are living in a progressive world, our idea of success remains pretty primitive, right? The expensive car, the luxury villa and the fancy luxury trips abroad. We say forget the formula that society has come up with to spell a happy life. Carve out your picture of what truly makes your soul happy even without rewards!
  1. Start your day with a Goal: As much as reaching out to tweet the morning selfie is tempting, skip the phone to wake up to a diary waiting for you to write down one thing you want to achieve that day. Sounds pretty simple? Try it! We guarantee a bright day!
  1. Keep a Totem: For those who need something physical to root your conscious to, this is one of the oldest games in learning mindfulness. A totem can be any object that keeps you rooted to reality. It can be a book, a small key chain, a favorite painting or even a spiritual object.
  1. Decide your own speed: As much as we live in a society of timelines, we forget that we all have a purpose that stays true to us. Let go of other peoples’ time scale and progress at your own speed.
  1. Let your mind wander: Now here’s one of the fun activities for mindfulness. Every day, take a few moments to imagine your idea of an ideal life. Give your thoughts details- the decor of your ideal house, the ambiance of your ideal job and the perfect success story.
  1. Own your time: The silliest advice that we get is to keep everyone around us happy. The reality is no one can keep everyone happy at the same time. We say own your schedule- the breaks, the family space, the quiet ride back home and the personal ‘Me’ time, which is O2 for me!

10. End the day with a note: Self affirmation is the key to staying mindful. End the  day by writing one thing you achieved that day and one thing that you learnt about yourself.

Time has always been in a hurry and with a demanding social-media life, we forget that each one of us needs time to polish our inner self. Stay free by taking a few moments to learn mindfulness by knowing who you truly are- sans the norms and the trends.

                                                                                              -UrWellnessBuddy Blogs